When one goes backwards...
Usually, I've heard of people who are dating (both gay and straight), go from dating to mutually exclusive dating (i.e. going steady). I would have never thought that it would be possible to go the other way. I mean, sure, it's theoretically possible to do so, but it doesn't really happen in real life right?
Today, my romantic interest was telling me how he feels that he needed more room, and that everything he's done in the past three month was more out of lust... And that he wanted to "get to know me more" before he wanted to take it further, etc. So, he told me that he wants us to be dating, instead of exclusively dating, which is what we were doing beforehand. He wants me and him to be dating, but also dating other people. This, in my opinion, is going backwards... Am I bummed? Sure... But what can I do? Do I think it's now continue going to work? I don't know. I'll continue to be optimistic. If I meet someone else, am I going to hinder myself? No, probably not.
I need to listen to some power music, and some Pussycat Dolls to make me feel sexy...
posted by radoboist @ 5:01 PM
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Oh, it happens A LOT more frequently than you'd thought. In fact, this happens more often than going from dating to mutually exclusive dating. Often, people just aren't ready to settle down and want to keep their options open. So... keep looking around. If you really like this guy, though, you should try your best to keep him interested in you. Good luck!
PS ~ heard that you met up with my friend Flo!
Yes, I did meet up with your friend. She was very quiet.
Actually, with this guy now, I feel like I'm walking on egg shells... I don't want to do anything that would scare him away, so I don't know if I should kiss, or not... If we're kissing, where (cheek, mouth). Most of the friends whom I've talked to told me that this is just a softer form of a break-up, that I've been dumped. I saw the dude tonight, and he didn't even make an effort to kiss me good night. I had to make the effort to shake his hand... I believe this does not bode well for me, not one bit.
Flo was... QUIET?!
That's unusual. She's one of my most talkative friends. Guess she was anxious about her interview... plus, I know she had other things on her mind, related to Montreal.
Or were you pulling my leg?
Yeah... often, when couples "take a break" from each other and start dating around, it leads to a break-up... though that's not necessarily true in all cases. If you feel you're walking on eggshells around him, maybe he's not the right guy for you. Or at least, this is not the right time for this relationship with him.
Shaking hands is so formal! Not even a hug? Did he at least return your hand shake with a firm one? (I hate it when people shake your hand as though theirs is a limp rag, making you feel like you're diseased or something).
Well, the fact that Flo had laryngitis definitely helped with her talkative factor. lol
I feel that he shook it in a firm manner, at least I thought it was normal, it was not a "limp handshake". But yes, I would prefer a kiss on the cheek and/or a hug.
I went to see the movie with him today, and I felt less like walking on eggshells. However, he told me that he's going to hand in the application for the Canadian Armed Forces, so that's kind of bad too.
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