Trouble in paradise?

So, it looks like the couple whom I talked about a few posts ago, Raoul and Rupert (names fictional), are having some trouble in paradise. I believe that the trouble can be one-sided, however, so let me explain.

Today, July 2, 2007, Raoul came to visit me at my place in Toronto. But it was really because we were going to have some Japanese buffet together, with me, him and my family. So, he met my parents and my brother, and he really enjoyed himself. The food was great. I haven't had sushi in such a long time, so it was nice to finally be able to have some.

Anyway, on the way back home, since I went to the restaurant in Raoul's car, he wanted to talk to me about Rupert, so I decided to offer an ear. It appears that on June 11, 2007, Rupert messaged someone on his facebook account, and said that the person was hot, and wanted to be friends with this person... What's wrong with this picture? I personally do not think that you be friends with someone because they are hot. You be friends with someone because they are a nice person, or they have a nice personality, or both. You don't be someone's friend because they are hot. That's a very superficial way to choose friends.

I kept reading the messages, and it appears that Rupert is explaining that he is still in the closet, and that's why on his profile, he says he's heterosexual. Also, he says that he changed his status to being in a relationship, because this dude bugged him about going out. In reality, it was Rupert who asked Raoul to change status after two dates.

Raoul is upset (of course, who wouldn't be), because he feels that he is putting a lot of energy into the relationship, and he feels that Rupert is not. Raoul feels that his needs are being ignored, while he goes above and beyond the call of duty to satisfy Rupert's needs. And he feels that Rupert is in a relationship with him until he finds someone better, so Raoul feels like he's just a paper towel, and when it's worn out, then he's discarded.

Oh goodness, the drama. Questions to ponder: Why date someone who is so dramatic? Why date someone who is ignorant of your needs? Why date someone who is not out? Why date someone who is so superficial? Why date someone who spends 60 + minutes into making himself look pretty? (aka high maintenance)

These are questions I wouldn't answer, nor would I need to answer because I tend to not date (or even consider dating) this type of people. But to each his own. Since I'm a good friend to Raoul, I told him that whatever happens, he will always have my support. After all, that is all that I can offer, right? Especially since Raoul is thinking of confronting Rupert. And I believe that this is necessary, as I don't think it's fair for Rupert to keep leading Raoul on, if he indeed is leading him on. I hope things work out, and that Raoul gets the resolution/answers that he needs so that he can move on.